The other day, my husband came home from work and said that he spoke to his mother. Apparently his eldest sister tried to get in touch with him. He could not get ahold of her so he contacted his mother to relay the message. 

His eldest sister’s eldest daughter is getting married. On 31st October. To the father of her children. 

I opened my mouth but nothing came out. Inside, I was screaming, its HALLOW’S EVE!!! 

My husband took the opportunity of my silence to say, “Yes, it’s Hallow’s Eve. She is marrying the kids’ father.”

I finally found my voice and said, “Why bother? They will end up getting divorced anyway.”

My husband just shrugged his shoulders.

I repeated out loud this time, “It’s Hallow’s Eve for fuck’s sakes. There’s trick-a-treating.”

My husband started laughing at me and said, “Yeah, that too.”

I kept muttering, “What the fuck…?”

You would think I would have been pleased that woman-child is finally getting married to her man-child, the father of her children. I should have been pleased but I am not. They have 2 children together. The first child was born not too long after my youngest child was born. My youngest will be 8 on her next birthday – in a few months. We have never met the father of this bastard child of hers. The next thing we knew, she was pregnant again by the same person. My husband said, “At least they have the same father.” 

She got pregnant while she was in high school. On purpose. It was not an accident that she got pregnant. She was deliberately trying to have a child while still a teenager in school. She had no prospect of a job to support her unborn child. I was livid when I heard. I was pregnant with my youngest, carefully looking at my bank accounts every other day, staring at the monthly income tax with holding in my husband’s pay every month, trying to teach my eldest how to read, write, count, spell her name, speak properly…

You and me, taxpayers, have been and will be providing for these lot. Does that not make you a tad upset?

At the time, the man-child was in her life just to provide the semen to make the baby. Fast forward several years later, he once again performed and there was miracle of life number two. Fabulous.

He then moved in with her, all is well and everyone wanted them to get married.

She said she wasn’t planning to get married. Her mother, my sister-in-law is now married to husband number three. Well, they have been married for over a decade now but you see the pattern.

I just don’t see the need for the children to be married. Unless of course they are trying to pay less income taxes if they file jointly as married couple with children. 

Call me a cynic or whatever but really, some people don’t need to be married while some people don’t need to have children. It cause more problems down the line. 

No, we will not be attending the wedding. Will we be sending a gift? I doubt it very much.